Ah yes, the people who “mind their own business” when they see a problem. How kindly history looks upon those brave, compassionate souls.

The right to vote? Women's reproductive rights? Gay marriage? Segregation? Where would we be without those upstanding people who shrugged their shoulders and said, "welp, that looks like a 'them' problem."

I’d rather be wrong than a coward, thanks. And, genuinely, I realise that I might be. But if I am wrong, millions of other people are also wrong. Not out of malice, but out of a genuine inability to understand the things that are being demanded of them. And some of them have the power to, for instance, pass laws banning trans healthcare.

I'm so frustrated, though no longer surprised, by the shortsightedness and narcissism that surrounds this debate. I don't think my opinion affects another person's reality. Obviously not. I'm saying that for people who are paying even a little bit of attention there are serious real world implications, for trans people and non trans people alike, for how we all handle this moment.,