But come on, it's clearly not. Right? I think ranking oppression sucks. I think it's stupid and lazy and childish and simplistic. I think we agree on all that. But it's obviously not bigotry.

Saying, for example, that black people have a harder time in America than white people is not bigotry. It's a broad generalisation which is clearly not always true. Especially when you remember that human beings are individuals and not monolithic blocks. But in general terms, you can understand why somebody would say this and even why it could be said to be true.

Saying this isn't anti-white or bigoted unless you move from this idea to something else. Dave doesn't do that. Nor does my article. It's not reasonable to criticise Dave or me for the things you might have seen other people say on this topic. Things which, let's face it, they were probably already saying.

And I don't think Dave is using the "some of my friends" defence. He doesn't need to. If, as he says in the special, you listen to what he's saying, it's already impossible to seriously claim he's transphobic.

I think he's telling the story of his friend because it's valuable (again, the "I'm having a human experience" moment was one of the highlights of the show) and also because it highlights a serious asymmetry in the way we talk (or rather don't talk) about harm when a "marginalised" group is behind it.