Fine, then as I can only speak for myself, by this definition, I'm non-binary. The article was actually me asking whether everybody else felt the same way. Going by the comments, it seems as if a lot of people do.

I've never felt "represented" by "manhood." I accept the label of "man" because it's a descriptor of my biology. Pretty much everybody on Earth will look at me and without hesitation describe me as a man. And as I don't allow this descriptor, or the expectations that come with it, to "control" me, I just kind of shrug and say that's fine. I fell the same way about the label "black".

But that said, I do understand that the experience is different for women. Women face a whole range of expectations and pressures that men don't. I'm not trying to put words into your mouth, because you didn't say this exactly, but let's say that wanting to find a way to escape those expectations seems like the most natural thing in the world to me.

I guess I'm just wondering how effective this actually is in practice. Does saying you're not a woman really stop people from perceiving you as one? Do you escape misogyny because you tell people to use different pronouns? If you're saying you're not a woman because you don't "identify" as one, what exactly are you identifying out of except the stereotypes? What "larger structures" am I missing?