Haha, hold on now! I'm certainly not conflating psychopathy and autism. Though I see how I was less than 100% precise. Instead of "incapable" I should probably have said "uninterested in discerning what makes the people around them uncomfortable."

And more importantly, uninterested in making reasonable efforts to avoid making the people around them uncomfortable.

I really can't grasp the point you're trying to make about brain chemistry. Everybody would agree, I hope, that there is a difference, across the board, between a 4-year-old's capacity to think, make decisions, plan long-term, etc and a 14-year-old's. But fewer would agree that there's the same degree of difference (or perhaps any difference at all) between a 24-year-old's and a 34-year old's.

Neurological development, as well as life experience, makes us better at thinking and decision making. Don't you agree? A 4-year-old can't be left to their own devices because they would die within a few days. A 14-year-old could probably manage, but they'd struggle. A 24-year-old we'd expect to be fine.

So generally speaking, when an adult makes decisions for a child, this isn't about "power." It's because children need guidance until they can manage their own lives, no? Social norms are established by those who are older because they're, in general, better at thinking. Because they understand the consequences of certain actions better than those who are younger and less experienced. In a sense, yes, this is the mindset behind tradition and religion. Borrowing the wisdom of those who have gone before.

Again, I'm sure we agree that this process isn't always perfect. Sometimes that borrowed "wisdom" is anyting but wise. And sometimes the ability to look at a situation with fresh eyes means making breakthroughs that traditional mindsets are incapabe of. But that doesn't mean we should throw away the concept of intellectiual development over time.

p.s. I wasn't calling you selfish. Sorry for any misunderstanding. The sentence stood on its own, not as a reference to you. The only reason I can see for anybody not to follow simple, logical rules that obviously benefit others is selfishness.