Haha, yeah, this is just wildly creepy. I've been on the receiving end of this and worse as a black guy. But I'm not sure I agree there's a BIG difference between fetishisation and attraction. Or maybe it's fairer to say there are degrees of fetishisation.

Yes, somebody who has no interest in anybody who isn't Asian or blonde or whatever is fetishising, but I think those people are very rare. And I still wouldn't necessarily describe that as racist. Weird? Yes. Creepy? Potentially. But to use your example, even if you were attracted to every single blonde you saw and had no interest in anybody who wasn't, we could call you a fetishist, but we obviously couldn't call you racist.

p.s. I just realised your first name is Charmaine not Anne. Sorry, I assumed you'd just gone in reverse order😁