I almost completely agree with you. But I'm not sure this sentence is true. There's a Herculean effort to convince trans people that they're under siege (I see this in the black community too. but that's another conversation). Every time a trans person dies (sometimes even if their death has nothing to do with transphobia), it's held up as further evidence that transphobes are lying in wait around every corner. But it's just not true.

If you have ten minutes, I highly recommend this video on the topic - https://youtu.be/B_FXH6ZeItg

Marginalised communities are constantly fed this narrative that they're in mortal danger, and while I don't wish to minimise any real dangers, this narrative is debilitating and causes huge amounts of unneccessary conflict.

If you've been persuaded that you're in danger every minute and every second, even if it's not true, you're much less likely to engage with those outside of your community. And you'll see every disagreement as a sign that this person isn't "safe". But, especially in the case of trans people, who are such a small minority that most people have no contact with them in real life, engaging is absolutely vital.