I see where you’re coming from of course, but the emotional labour is your choice, and I’d suggest you don’t endure it. As a person of colour, you have an authority to speak on these issues that some other parents don’t. Why hold back? Tell these people exactly how stupid and harmful their proposals are.

If I felt that I had to keep my thoughts to myself then I’m sure I’d feel just as exhausted with the whole thing, but if we don’t speak up, who will?