I submit that if you think this it's because you aren't listening to them.

And also, that your attitude Is very likely very different when it comes to people of colour and women and the LGBT community and on and on. This is exactly the problem I'm pointing to.

If, for example, you hear about people of colour falling behind in the education system, is your response simply, "why aren't they working, studying, focusing"?

Do you recognise, in the cases of women being underrepresented in the C-Suite or in STEM, that sometimes people need help or encouragement or even just to be listened to as they talk about their challenges?

Do you reduce LGBT people, en masse, to people huddled in their basements addicted to porn?

So my point is that there's a massive empathy gap in society when it comes to men, and it's leading to a lot of men, especially young men, growing up feeling alienated and resentful. Yes, of course, they need to take responsibility for themselves, but they also deserve to be treated with as much compassion and seriousness as anybody else.