I think, as with so much transgender writing I read, you've misdiagnosed the problem. Yes, some people hate and fear transgender people. No argument from me. But this is by no means a majority position.

Don't you ever ask yourself why the major pushback against transgender people has only come in the past five/ten years or so? Just as, coincidentally enough, surgeries and hormone treatments for children have become common? As males who have no intention of having surgeries or taking hormones or who walk around with full beards have begun demanding access to female spaces? As rapists started being referred to with she/her pronouns and put in female prisons?

As I said, I've never come across a community so desperate to be despised. I can count on one hand the number of trans writers who seem able to go one full paragraph without talking about how much they're "hated" or how society wants their "extinction." They're so intoxicated by this view of themselves as part of a valiant struggle against bigoted oppressors who just don't understand them. But they never talk about the above problems. They never consider how these issues are making ordinary, accepting, good-hearted people think, "hey, wait a minute, this isn't right."

It's extraordinarily rarely trans people speaking against or trying to do anything about these problems. But very often trans people bending over backwards to defend them. That, by far, is the biggest barrier to acceptance.