I'd just make one small but important amendment to this. Skin colour becomes irrelevant only after we learn to love ourselves.

Black people aren't in a competition with white people for who did most for mathematics or science or music or art. All of these things belong to all of us. No, Gauss and Descartes and Euler etc, didn't take centre stage. Algebra and calculus and cartesian geometry did. I thank God nobody was encouraging me to consider the skin colour of the people who invented them.

I think that we adults often project our struggles onto our children and then "protect" them from them. I don't want to be interpreted as trying to tell you how to raise your son. I understand completely that that's none of my business. But I want to assure you, there's a world of difference between teaching your kid to love himself, and teaching him to define himself by his blackness.

I sincerely wish you the best of luck in threading that needle.