I’m not trying to disagree, I do disagree. But I’m not disagreeing for fun or to be mean. Nor do I disagree with everything you’re saying. Do you consider good-faith conversation to be me simply listening and nodding and not saying what I think? I’m certainly not asking that of you.

I’m not demanding respectability politics. I’m not demanding anything, I’m pointing to where I think you’re misrepresenting certain opinions. I’m not saying the trans community is wrong to be hurt by Rowling, what right could I have to say that about anybody’s feelings? I’m saying that that hurt can be understood through a different lens than blind hatred. If you want to see it as hatred, I’m certainly not going to stop you. But doing so only hurts you. I may not be trans but I know a thing or two about discrimination and how it can embitter people.

Trans people aren’t a monolith. There are trans people who don’t believe that Rowling is transphobic. Where does that leave us? Do I consider you the arbiter or them? You ask me to learn, but you accuse me of bad intent at every turn. If you can’t stop doing that then you’re right, there doesn’t seem to be much point in continuing to talk.