Steve QJ
2 min readNov 4, 2021

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I'm sorry for what happened to you. And let me make clear again, I'm not discrediting the idea that a woman might reasonably have been afraid for her life in similar circumstances, but we're not talking about a hypothetical woman, we're talking about this particular woman.

Amy didn't try to outrun Christian, instead, she aggressively approached him as he repeatedly asked her not to and backed away from her. She was far more concerned with the fact that he was filming her racism than with his "maleness".

I agree completely that Christian shouldn't have tried to separate her from her dog, yet at the time she makes the threat, she is holding her dog (actually, the complete disregard for the obvious discomfort of her dog is one of the main criticism levelled against her).

Recording someone, unfortunately, is an increasingly sensible thing to do, and an absolute necessity if you're a black man dealing with a racist white woman. Emmett Till can attest to how that works out for black men (or actually, I guess he can't).

I mean, you're actually debating the details of this case despite the fact that there's a video of the incident and Christian's own, freely given account of what happened before the camera started recording (please note, the only evidence that he used this threatening language came from him). Can you imagine what people would be saying if there wasn't a recording?

So no, when you say "in spite of the fear Amy must have felt," I think you're projecting the fear of your experience onto this completely different scenario. Amy clearly wasn't feeling any fear. So again, sincerely, I'm sorry about what happened to you, and I'm in no way trying to cast doubt on the fact that men do deliberately intimidate women. But it's abundantly clear that's not what was happening here.

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Steve QJ
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