No, that's my point. You keep saying he hasn't engaged with ciriticism in good faith, but there hasn't been any good faith criticism as far as I know. If you do know then by all means tell me. But if you don't, then how can you criticise him for not engaging with it?
As for the "woke trap" in this case all there is is hurt feelings. We're talking about a comedy special here. Dave joking about Adam's apples or, criticising North Carolina's anti-trans bill, doesn't harm trans people in any material way that I can see. Again, you haven't (and you've admitted that nobody else has) demonstrated any harm that comes from Dave's comments. Of course, I recognise that some people hreally do hate trans people. I recognise that some will cause them physical harm. But I don't believe that any of them will do so because of Dave's special. In fact, you could more easily argue that he's softened some transphobes' views.
Allison Gaines blocked me because I politely argued with something she'd written 😅, so I haven't read anything by her for a long time. But as I've already pointed out, it's not reasonable to criticise Dave or me for something that somebody else is saying (and at least in Allison's case, as I also pointed out, things that she was already saying).
Racists have, I have absolutely no doubt, twisted my words to fit their agendas. I don't take responsibility for that. All I can do is write as carefully and thoughfully as I can (we've already agreed that Dave didn't do a good job of this), and hope that people will take the time to actually read what I wrote (a significant number of his critics clearly haven't done this). If Allison is slamming LGBT people, by all means, go and criticise her for it. She'll probably do you the favour of blocking you too, so you don't have to read any more of her toxic nonsense.
And no, your last paragraph misses the point completely. Firstly, Dave's privilege in this case is his basic self esteem and mental health. We all have the "privilege" of brushing off criticism if we're resilient enough to do so (we also have the privilege of being able to laugh at jokes that are directed at us). I get plenty of criticism. I listen to it. I engage with it. But I brush off any that is hysterical and/or unreasonable. It's impossible to put anything of any quality out into the world if you can't do this.
But it's also impossible to put anything of any quality out into the world if you're too arrogant to listen to feedback. I have no doubt that Dave does. If his audience approval was down at 20% or even 50%, I suspect he wouldn't be "brushing it off". But it's at 97%! Clearly "ALL of you" are in a tiny minority. And more to the point. I'd be willing to bet that a majority of that minority haven't even watched the show!
Secondly, again, Dave hasn't shown ambivalence. He simply hasn't received any criticism that he can engage with (you've already admitted this!!). More to the point, he's signalled that if he was invited to receive criticism, he would accept. Your arguments seem to be immune to the facts of this situation! So as these replies are getting pretty long, let's simplify:
1. You started by saying that I'd missed the mark. How? What did I get wrong given everything you now know about the situation?
2. What do you think Dave should be doing to remedy the situation and do you think the trans community has given him the opportunity to actually do whatever you'd suggest?
3. What is the material harm, other than hurt feelings, that Dave's special caused in your opinion? Not things that might happen in the future if x and y and z also happen. What did Dave's comments in this special do to harm the trans community? And did his comments supporting and humanising trans people count for anything at all?
