No. This is actually another level that I'm not even going to bother to go into. But suffice it to say that no. I don't "know what gender I identify with". I'm a man because I'm a male and an adult and that's what "man" means. I don't "feel" like a man. I don't even know what that means. What does it "feel" like to be a man? Can you describe it? Do you think another randomly chosen man would have exactly the same feeling? The entire concept is incoherent.
That doesn't mean I think trans women are faking it. I don't. But I think that it's a mistake to say that somebody who “feels like” a woman is a woman. Which is why you find yourself in the insane position where if I tell you right now, "I'm a woman," and demand to get naked in a changing room alongside women and girls, you don't have any basis at all, by your understanding of what a woman is, to refute me.
This, for the umpteenth time, is the problem. Not trans women, but the ease with which men can take advantage of this asinine, circular definition of "woman."
And this issue isn't simply about women's bathrooms. If you'd bothered to read the article, you'd know that I support trans women using women's bathrooms. I think it's by far the best solution for all concerned. However, as I've already said to someone else, there's a difference between a bathroom and a changing room and a rape crisis centre. A woman can have privacy in a bathroom that she would find more difficult in a changing room. A woman in a rape crisis centre is in a very different state of mind that in a changing room.
They are different scenarios, that exist for different purposes, and therefore may require different policies. There isn't a one-size-fits-all solution.
Trans women feel anxiety using women's bathrooms because they know that they might make women feel uncomfortable which a) shows they have more respect for the feelings of women than you do (something I’ve never doubted), and b) that they understand that there's an issue. So the question is, how do we fix that issue in a way that works for women and trans women?
What would be enormously helpful in resolving these issues is if conversations about them weren't so misogynistic and manipulative and dishonest. It would be helpful if you had a tenth of the compassion you have for women that you seem to have for trans women. Women compromise all the time too after all. It would be helpful if women weren't accused of bigotry for asking people to respect boundaries that they spent centuries fighting for.
