Of course I agree. The sentence you quoted makes it clear I'm not equating equality and special treatment. They're absolutely not the same.

My point is that "stay in your hood" is a sentene that a white person could say to a white person, a black person could say to a black person, and a black person could say to a white person, and nobody would care.

But a white person says it to a black person, and her information is exposed to over 100,000 strangers on Twitter and her boss fires her without any evidence or context. Not only that, but this reaction is defended by many people.

This is special treatment.

And yes, of course there are certain things that a white person might say to a black person that would be treated differently. But I can't think of a single example where all other combinations of races could say it to each other without drama.

So while I completely agree with you that equality should be the rule of the day, we need to think carefully about what we mean by equality. I want all the benefits of equality for black people, but I don't see a way that doesn't also mean accepting the negatives of not being able to cry racism if a white prson hurts my feelings.

You'll never find me writing a word against calling out genuine racism. I'm just saying that this clearly isn't it. And if you feel that it is, surely we can agree that Joseph's reaction was a perfect example of expecting special treatment.