The Problem With Racism

The trials and tribulations of talking about race.

Steve QJ
5 min readApr 26, 2022
Photo by Oliver Ragfelt on Unsplash

If you didn’t love your kids, you wouldn’t want to talk to them.

They suck at telling stories. They‘re too young to gossip about your favourite TV shows. Their social circle is people who wet their pants and put crayons up their noses.

And worst of all, none of this stops them from thinking they’re smart enough to argue with you.

Despite their squishy, underdeveloped brains, kids feel equipped to debate bedtimes and cupcake privileges and the existence of the number 4. They don’t hesitate to weigh in on theology and where babies come from and whether it’s “Fig Newton” or “Pig Newton”. And in each case, their lack of life experience and their rudimentary grasp of numeracy has no impact on their confidence.

Talking to children is a crushing grind of negotiation and explanation and patience. It’s boring and repetitive and frustrating. But we do it anyway. Because if we want our children to grow into less annoying members of society, that’s what they need us to do.

If you didn’t care about racism, you wouldn’t want to talk about it either. Over the past few years, I’ve watched racial discourse soar to ever greater heights of hyperbole, defensiveness and outright lunacy.



Steve QJ

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