The White Person’s Definitive Guide To People Of Colour

Everything you wanted to know but were too racist to ask.

Steve QJ
5 min readDec 2, 2023
Photo by Katerina Holmes

When you’re a person of colour, and your friend sends you an article entitled “100 Ways White People Can Make Life Less Frustrating For People of Color,” you know it’s going to be rough.

Not only because you learn that cynical, race-baiting garbage like this can still rack up over fifteen million views on social media.

Not only because — unless racists have started scouring the internet for tips on being less racist — you know this is just another virtue-signalling, preaching-to-the-converted waste of time.

But because the vast majority of your race-related frustration comes from articles like, “Fifty Things NOT To Say To Black People,” and “7 Ways to Support and Center People of Colour,” and “13 Harmless Phrases Guaranteed To Make People Of Colour’s Sensitive Little Brains Explode.” (That last one isn’t real yet, but give it time.)

So imagine my surprise when I discovered that if my friend had just read rule 18, she’d wouldn’t have sent it in the first place:

18. When you find instances of racist bullshit online, please don’t send it to us.



Steve QJ

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