This is exactly my point. This doesn't exist. And the fact that it doesn't is detrimental to transgender people who are sincere in their desire to live as the opposite gender and to women. I'm arguing for a sensible standard of womanhood that everybody can get on board with.

At the extremes of TERFism you have people arguing that no male, regardless of anything they do or how obviously sincere they are should ever be granted "citizenship." I think this is wrong.

But trans activists, for want of a better term, are arguing that any male who says they're a woman should instantly be legally and socially affirmed as such. I think this is wrong too.

Right now, for example, self ID laws in both the U.K. and U.S. allow male prisoners to declare themselves a woman, and be transferred to female prisons, with "no hormones, surgery or time spent living as the opposite sex required" (https://www.wsj.com/articles/male-inmates-in-womens-prisons-11622474215).

If there is no sensible conversation about what should be required in order to be recognised as a woman. If those activists continue to erase the boundaries until there is literally no way to distinguish between men and women, more and more women will, I think completely understandably, push back.

It never ceases to amuse me when I'm accused of being fake because I'm trying to frame this debate in a way that's less toxic. I've never come across a community so desperate to be despised. Who so instinctively sees disagreement as justification to attack. What possible motivation could I have to be fake?

I don't hate you. I support you. Sorry if this comes as a disappointment. I just also support women. And some of the things being done in the name of trans people are obviously harmful. The longer it goes on, the more people will join the call to close the borders.

p.s. Your early immigrants analogy sounds great (if also a little vague) until you remember what happened to the native Americans.