Well, obviously, people making excuses on Dave's behalf isn't Dave's fault at all. He doesn't control what people say about him. Positive or negative.
But you're repeating the claim that he's a bigot and you still haven't offered any evidence whatsover to support that accusation. We agree that there were places he could have done better and been clearer, but that's a long way short of bigotry.
You seem to be blaming him for the things some people who support him might be saying. But Dave didn't provide that "red meat". He's expressing the views of, conservatively, 95% of the population of the planet. Certain trans ideas about gender and sex are still extremely niche and frankly, in a few cases, obviously and utterly wrong. We can't pretend, for example, that everybody agreed that men could give birth or that "they/them" as singular pronouns made sense, until Dave made these jokes. But what he is doing, is talking about these ideas in a far more compassionate way than he's being given credit for.
As I've pointed out a number of times in the past few days, Dave actually defends trans people at numerous points during the show. He speaks against North Carolina's anti-trans bathroom bill. The section about Daphne not needing to be understood, but simply needing it to be recognised that she's having a human experience, was, I thought, empathy-building and skillful framing. The moments when Dave isn't joking around are almost entirely supportive of trans people.
The real issue as far as I see it is that Dave isn't supportive of everything trans people say he should be. It's that he dares to defend JK Rowling, who has incredibly unjustly been the trans community's whipping girl for the past year and a half. He dares to talk (admittedly clumsily) about biological realities that some members of the trans community want to deny. He dares to talk about intersectionality (again, extremely clumsily) in a way that acknowledges that trans people can't simply be classified as victims and that victimhood is actually a layered concept.
As I've said. I don't have any problem with him being criticised for the mistakes in the show. I have a problem with the disingenuous framing of the criticism and the fact that it's made almost impossible to have an honest converstaion about these issues without being labelled a bigot and accused of murdering trans people. I have a problem with this not only because it's stupid and dishonest, but because it hurts the way the trans community is perceived by the gneral public.
There are many parallels with the way I see this discourse and the way I see racial discourse. But trans discourse is even more extreme.
