Why do you think it's up to you to decide this??!! It's so entitled!!! Why don't you understand that women get a say?! Women are 51% of the population and trans people are what? Maybe 1%? In fact, I'd be willing to bet, there are many more women who are survivors of sexual abuse than there are trans people. Why do you think you get to decide what they should be comfortable with?? Please, please try to think of people other than yourself.

I didn't say you were a man. I don't know you. I've never seen you. But as you described yourself, it seems likely you'd be read as male, which in almost everybody's mind, is synonymous with reading as a man. Being "excluded" in female spaces comes with that territory. You present as male, presumably, because that's what feels right for you. I 100% support your right to do that with dignity and and comfort and safety. But your right to dignity and comfort and safety isn't a right to make all of society reshape itself to you desires. Other people's dignity and comfort and safety matters too. Compromise is necessary.

Female only spaces exist precisely because men (or male presenting people) have no right to say things like "the fact that I look like a man has nothing to do with whether I can be in spaces where you feel vulnerable and exposed." That's the entire reason they exist. Women fought long and hard for their protections and they need and deserve them. You don't get to overrule them because you don't like the consequences of the way you present.

Now, do you deserve protections too? Yes, a thousand times yes. Which is why I keep saying that female and trans rights need to be balanced. It's bizarre how, in person, trans people never seem to struggle with this concept, but online, I rarely meet somebody who doesn't. You seem to want to be in the world in whatever way you choose (which you should be able to), but also expect to have absolute control over the way you're perceived or treated. Do you really not see how unreasonable that is?

And yes, that's a good point. Trans women AND trans men competing against women is unfair. I wholeheartedly agree. That's why I don't think either group should compete against females. Trans men competing against men is also unfair. So, I had a thought which might work. Just spitballing obviously:

While there are still too few trans women athletes to have their own category what if trans women compete with women, but their records and medals are categorised separately? So they compete on track, but have their own medal ceremonies and their performances don't overwrite female world records. This same system would mean that trans men got visibility that they otherwise wouldn't get as they compete against men.

I don't know, maybe not a perfect solution, but again, the world isn't supposed to fit around whatever decision people make and make itself perfect for them.

Lastly, guilt by association is the laziest, most prejudiced way imaginable to judge somebody and their arguments. If we’re playing the guilt by association game, I’m justified in holding you accountable for all the absolutely vile abuse I’ve seen directed at women by trans people online. Transphobes are justified in calling trans people perverts because of the trans women who have abused gender identity policies to prey on women. I’d be very careful with guilt by association if I were you. Both edges of that sword are sharp.

And more importantly, you haven't established association. The closest I've seen to "evidence" of Rowling's transphobia is that she followed one transphobic woman on Twitter. So, by all means, show me where she's "actively stated support" for these shadowy organisations and tell me what these organisations did that was so terrible. If they genuinely are advocating cruelty against trans people, I'm totally on your side. But otherwise, stop making allegations you know aren’t true. It's this dishonesty that makes these conversations more difficult than they already are.