Yeah, I'm not expecting perfection in these conversations at all, I wasn't annoyed at the point you made, I was just pointing out that while you note that I didn't talk about the private efforts of individuals I don't know, you didn't note all the ways in which progress has been opposed. You're asking for balance in a way that seems inherently unbalanced.

This is something I see a lot in these conversations. As I point out in the article, your personal experience is important, I'm not trying to refute it, but to talk about these things compassionately, it's at least as important to think about the experiences of people who don't look like you.

I see lots of white people complaining about how they're being demonised at the moment, and I understand their feelings. But far fewer talk about how black people have been demonised for generations while they did and said nothing. I see white people talking about how progress has been made, and it has. But far fewer talk about how unnecessarily hard and bloody that progress has been and how much more is still needed. I see black people talking about how white people mistreat them, and some do. But far fewer are willing to admit how much they're enjoying the chance to be just as bad.

So when you say that I didn't mention these private efforts (which as I said I can't really know about), I can't help but notice that you don't mind that I didn't mention the private racism that black people regularly experience. That's why I felt your view was focused on "your side".

All that said, I didn't mean to come across defensively. These conversations are important and as you say, are inevitably imperfect. Hope I didn't give the impression that I don't support your right to express yourself, just trying to add to your perspective.